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Where were we?
Oh, right, sober dating websites.
From Single to Serious: Sober Dating Websites
Now that you have 6 online websites to make accounts with, hopefully it will bring you luck! We all deserve to find love and be with someone, and if you are working your sobriety and balancing life out, you shouldn’t have a problem. I will however share that dating is not recommended in your first year of sobriety. Focus on your recovery, attend meetings, and when you have your life balanced, you can start adding other responsibilities!
Why You Should Wait a Year Before Dating Anyone
This might come off as a struggle for you, but honestly, it’s not that hard. You are just now getting your life back on track, sobriety isn’t an easy transition. You might be feeling anxious, disappointed, happy, blessed, or scared. Once you take the time to make your sobriety a priority, you can start adding more responsibilities onto your life. In the first year of sobriety, you shouldn’t take on any huge changes; marriage, dating, moving, and signing up for school would fall down that category. You are getting your chance at life again, and looking at sober dating websites can wait until you feel more comfortable with your sobriety.
What if You’re Dating Already?
If it’s too late and you’re already dating someone special, everything is going to be okay. But, I do have a few words of advice. Your sobriety is your priority; focus on your health and recovery first before focusing on your S.O. It doesn’t hurt to be in therapy during early recovery and dating. Therapy will help you learn the functional patters of behavior and insight on readiness when you are dating. If you and your partner are both in recovery, there are couples counseling and ALANON meetings that you can attend together. Take your relationship slow, don’t put any pressure on your partner, and be upfront about your recovery. If she takes you to the bar side of a restaurant on a date and it brings back triggers, let her know. Dating in the first year really isn’t suggested, so if you’re currently in early recovery and you’re single; good! Stay single, work on yourself, work on the 12 steps, attend meetings and prioritize your sobriety.